Jason starts the show with a listener question from Brandon. He asks about living above/below your means. They talk about consumerism and how to live your life without having more stuff. Having more doesn’t necessarily make you happier. Later Jason brings on guest Robert Greene, author of the new book The Laws of Human Nature as well as New York Times bestsellers like The 48 Laws of Power and The 33 Strategies of War. The two discuss how to put yourself in the best position for success and how to change your life circumstances.
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Jason Hartman 2:54
Greetings from beautiful San Diego, California and welcome to episode a little 741 140 you know what that means? Well, first off, this is Jason Hartman your host, but that means this is a 10th episode show where we talk about a topic of general interest. But it always circles back to real estate. And we are going to talk to Robert Green today. He is the famous author and a returning guest. He’s been on the show a couple of times before. And Robert is out with a new book. And by the way, I had not finished his book at the time of this interview. I finished it afterwards. And I gotta tell you, it’s really good. It’s all about the laws of human nature. I really enjoyed the book. So yeah, I think you’ll enjoy this interview. So we’ll dive into that. Adam, we’ve got a listener question first, before we get to the Robert Greene interview. Fire away.
All right, we got this one from Brandon. He went to Jason hartman.com slash ask which you should go to as well if you have a question and he said first Stoffel little promo he said I love everything about Jason Hartman is creating wealth show from the why and the how to have an income property investing and how this vehicle truly can help someone create cash flow and wealth to the big picture economics discussed overall tangents make for great entertainment, g never do those. And I even learned from them to me a tangent. Let’s just say it has taught me a wealth of information and knowledge that I’ve been able to personally apply to my journey to help me reach my goal and dream of financial freedom. So thanks for the love.
Jason Hartman 4:30
Thanks for the love for sure. Yeah,
appreciate it, but it didn’t just have love He had a question to he wants to know he says some personal finance authors and gurus like to subscribe and teach the live below your means philosophy, while others such as Robert Kiyosaki teach live above your means or expand your means. What are your thoughts regarding this topic in terms of truly creating wealth?
Jason Hartman 4:50
That is a great question. And it is a big, deep philosophical question that we could discuss for a long time. So Adam, there’s kind of two major philosophies on this and brand and of course, one philosophy is you should have an abundance mentality right? And this would be more along a lot of new age speakers and thought leaders will talk about having abundance philosophy of an abundance mentality, you know, source abundance, right? You know, the secret, all this kind of stuff, right? There’s nothing new about the secret by the way that’s biblical, went back thousands of years. But the more contemporary version, of course, is the secret and that kind of thing, right. And then, on the other side of the spectrum, there’s the be prudent, be conservative, be careful and thoughtful be the Millionaire Next Door like Thomas Stanley talked about in his famous book on the topic. And then to contrast that with the abundance mentality Robert Kiyosaki says, you know, these other speakers will say, cut up your credit cards and he says, my credit cards make me happy.
I can Marie Kondo route, right. I my credit card gives me happiness.
Jason Hartman 6:01
Exactly, exactly. So I can see both sides of this. And there really are two sides of it. So I guess, where I come down on this idea is try to have a kind of, you know, Adam, I think it was you that was on with me recently when I talked about all the toys I used to have. And I used to constantly want to buy these toys. You know, I had a big yacht I had, I bought two airplanes. I had a big motor home, I’ve had lots of big houses over the years. And you know, I could easily afford all that stuff. It was really no problem to afford it. But just because you can afford it. And just because you can buy it doesn’t mean it makes your life better. And that’s one of the lessons I really learned is that the more transactions anybody engages in, the more complexity and really the more problems they’re going to have in their life. You know, I think I have a fairly complicated life, even now that I’ve refrained from buying a lot of those toys. It’s just you engage in more transactions and just boring things are going to go wrong, you know, you’re going to have more insurance claims, you’re going to have to manage more things, you’re going to get in a few more disputes, because you’re just write more checks to people, you know, and there’s going to be disagreements, it’s just a law of large numbers, right? And so the abundance concept of living above your means or, or that kind of idea isn’t necessarily going to make you happier. And believe me, I can tell you that for sure that and by the way, we talk a lot about money on this show, because hey, that’s what the show is about. Right? It’s about creating wealth. And money does not make you happy. Okay, I hope I didn’t burst anybody’s bubble. It definitely does not make you happy, but it will positively I can guarantee To you, it will positively make you happier than poverty that I can promise. Okay, so the other philosophy years the famous book, The Richest Man in Babylon, as I recall, I read that book many, many years ago. But the idea was to live on 70% of your income, and save 10% of it, invest 10% of it, and give 10% away, you know, that philosophy was like the 7010 1010 philosophy, right? So there’s all kinds of thinking on this stuff. But I would say that the best thing to do is to be generous with others and reward yourself in a fairly reasonable and smaller ways. It doesn’t have to be massively extravagant. Okay. If you have a success you want yourself in set up that kind of system where you’re sort of almost tricking yourself into understanding that there’s more that this is good that I did good, I deserve a reward. So whatever your thing is, right? Is it going on a trip? Is it a buying a new gadget or, you know, some new clothing or whatever, right? Maybe it’s just going out to a nice dinner. You know, it doesn’t have to be buy a yacht, and get a second and a third home, right? Because those things those big, expensive, permanent toys like that really do require more of your time, more of your management, and they create more complexity. So I guess I went a little off topic because I didn’t just say whether it was live above or within your means, or live way below your means. I didn’t really answer that question exactly. But I definitely can say try not to cry. complicate your life, money should make your life better and easier and give you more peace of mind. You can create a lot of complexity with money. And I have certainly made that mistake many times. And I am trying to be much more thoughtful with that, even though I can afford it doesn’t mean I should afford it. Adam, what do you think?
Well, I think first off, Brandon’s gonna love that answer, because he said he loves your tangents. So well. That’s one thing. But the other thing I would say is, when you said money doesn’t buy happiness, it was money, gives you choices, and your choices can make you happy. Right? So Aaron and I have talked and we have both said, you know, even if we made your wife, my wife said, even if we made a ton more money, there’s not really anything in our life, we would change I mean, we would invest more and help us become truly free sooner, I guess, but we’re happy with our life. And if you’re happy with your life, then what if you’re living below your means? That’s fine. living above your means it may or may not be fine. You have to define what your fine means, I guess in that sense, but, you know, that’s what I think is as long as you like it, and it works for you, then go for it.
Jason Hartman 11:13
Yeah, exactly. I mean, I think for example, in your case, right, you should buy a nicer house, okay? Nothing wrong with your house now. it’ll, it’ll do the job. But as you grow, and you know, you’ve got all these real estate investments now and you’re continuing to buy more, you know, at some point you decide, hey, you know, get a bigger better house, right.
But we’re talking about downsizing,
Jason Hartman 11:35
but Oh, really? You have four kids?
Yeah. That was 30 3500 square foot house. I don’t need that.
Jason Hartman 11:43
Yeah, but I mean, you can improve the house, you can make it better, you know, whatever. But I think that mistake would be, go buy a depreciating yacht, buy some expensive depreciating cars that really don’t matter much or buy a car. At home, don’t buy a second home. Okay, I had second homes. I had second cars. I didn’t even mention those as toys, right? And those things do not make your life better. And I remember one day I realized that right? I remember I was rushing to the airport one day when I lived in Newport Beach. And I remember going into the garage and thinking for about 30 seconds, which car should I take to the airport? Because I was just parked there. Well, guess what, I took the wrong car. Because when I got to the airport, my wallet was in the other car. And of course, you can’t get on the plane without your ID. And so these things complicate your life. You know, they don’t always make it simpler. And and it’s, you know, another insurance policy, you have to manage another car wash that’s needed. Another different kind of dealership you need to deal with because the car is a different brand. And you know, really, I would say better things. Maybe as you create more wealth, but not necessarily you more things. Maybe that’s a distinction. I’m not sure. thoughts.
Yeah, that sounds about right. I would agree with that.
Jason Hartman 13:06
Well, hey, we are talking today about the laws of human nature. And our guest is Robert Greene. I hope you’re joining us for meet the masters. We should explore this topic more. I’d love to hear some more Jason Hartman comm slash ask, and I hope I at least made some attempt to answer that question. But let’s get to our guest Robert Greene. Thanks to all of you who have registered just this week for meet the masters. We appreciate that for the rest of you. Get your tickets Jason Hartman comm slash masters, and let’s get to our guest and talk to Robert Green.
Jason Hartman 13:43
It’s my pleasure to welcome a returning guests back to the show and that is none other than Robert Greene. He’s out with his sixth book now. He is a very well known author on subjects relating to power in strategy. his newest book is called the laws of human nature. Robert Welcome back. are you? I’m fine. Thanks for having
Robert Greene 14:01
me. It’s good to have you. So
Jason Hartman 14:03
tell us about the new book. And guess, you know, there’s a lot we can do, obviously, to master our selves. And you’ve got the book on mastery and laws of seduction and power. And so many yell, all of your works are like this whole, to dive into history. They’re fascinating. I mean, really well researched.
Robert Greene 14:24
Well, I wanted to give people kind of a code book for deciphering the behavior of the people around them. Because it’s my premise that a lot of the problems that we suffer from in life, come from the fact that we basically misunderstand and misjudge the people around us. And this means we are very bad at seeing the character of the people that we decide to hire in our business, or that we bring in as a partner or colleague, or even as an intimate partner. And these kind of bad choices that we make in which we live. Judge people’s character and what’s really happening behind their smiles and the facade they present creates a lot of pain and problems for us. Oh,
Jason Hartman 15:09
it’s probably one of the costliest things in life. Would you say? Maybe it’s got to be the cards? Yes.
Robert Greene 15:15
Yeah. And I do a lot of consulting with very powerful people, CEOs, athletes, etc. And you’d be amazed at how so many of their problems in life have to do with, they may be great on the basketball court, or in figuring in, you know, coming up with a business plan. But when it comes to people, and political nature of people dealing with them and managing them, they’re actually quite inept. So I wanted to write a book that I thought would really, really help people in most practical way, and give them a kind of a guide for understanding what’s happening behind all the smiles and the facades that people present you
Jason Hartman 15:59
Well, that’s is a very, very good topic and certainly needed. These mistakes are incredibly significant. And even more so in the digital era. Wouldn’t you agree when we don’t have the chance to judge body language or be around people so many of our relationships, at least for me are, are virtual there with people over telephones and email accounts and so forth?
Robert Greene 16:24
Yeah, we need the people’s physical presence because we’re basically I try and make the point in the book that we are animals, that a lot of what we get from people is not on the conscious level has nothing to do with words. It’s feelings weekend. It’s non verbal communication. It’s sort of we pick up the moods, the people in front of us, and we judge them based on that. And that can be very accurate information. And when you’re dealing with people in a virtual realm, you get none of these cues that we are designed as a social animal. Be able to pick up a news. You just getting words on a screen. And it’s extremely easy to misinterpret.
Jason Hartman 17:08
Oh, really easy. I mean, very easy. That’s, that’s why, you know, the millennial generation. I mean, they just want to do everything by text. It’s ridiculous. One guy, a millennial friend of mine, he sends me this text and he says, I think I want to start a charitable foundation. Can you tell me how to do that? Oh, yeah. All right on that, you know, I mean, I have a foundation I started 1415 years ago. And, you know, let me see if I can fit that into 140 characters.
Robert Greene 17:36
Yes, you went Twitter?
Robert Greene 17:39
Well, you know, that’s, uh, I have a whole chapter in my new book about that chapter on basically on the art of influence and persuasion. It’s called confirm people self opinion. And it’s basically about getting outside of yourself and your own needs and desires and getting into the mindset of the people that you need. Dealing with an understanding that they have their own problems and issues. And they have an opinion about themselves. That’s extremely important. They like to see themselves as basically good, cooperative as basically intelligent, and rational and independent. Like they make choices on their own. And if you go and try and get a favors from someone, like, he’s asking you for advice, and you’re not aware of their mindset of how busy they are, what they’re thinking of what matters to them, you’re only locked into yourself and what you need, you’re going to probably alienate them, you’re probably going to irritate them. Oh, sure, they have the effect the opposite effect of what you wanted. So being able to get inside the skin of the person you’re dealing with, is one of the most important life skills because you can’t go through life without the ability to influence people and at least get them interested in your ideas. Oh, no question about it.
Jason Hartman 19:00
Is that just basic rapport building or empathy? You know, understanding where someone’s coming from walking the other Indians moccasins for a mile as the saying goes, there must be more to it than that, I assume.
Robert Greene 19:12
Well, there’s more to it than that. But empathy is an extremely important part of this book, I have a chapter in transforming our self love into empathy. I maintain that we are born with extremely powerful empathetic tools that come from our early childhood. We’re connected to our mother in a very deep and visceral way. But we don’t tap into these skills. But it’s more than that. It’s also understanding the individual that you’re dealing with, right and understanding their problems, their issues, and what they’re looking for. So for instance, if you’re someone who’s not powerful and you want to connect to somebody who is powerful, who can help you perhaps as a mentor or an investor You have to get into what their needs are and their self interest is. And you have to take the leap into their psychology and spend the time doing some research and thinking very deeply about what will appeal to them. How can you save them time? How can you make them look better? Right? So it’s just not a matter of being empathetic. You know, you have to go deeper than that you have to look very closely at the individual you’re dealing with, and figuring out how you can tailor your request to their world and their mindset. Absolutely. Absolutely.
Jason Hartman 20:38
Any particular action steps on that. I mean, you know, back to that first question that we considered, do you have to always be with someone physically to apply many of the things you outlined in the book, you don’t have to be you don’t have to be but it’s certainly helpful, right.
Robert Greene 20:55
It’s very helpful, but I believe that I’m able to discern a lot of about People’s character, through their emails, through their text messages through their Facebook posts. For instance, that Twitter posts that you got from that guy, asking for advice, you know, etc, reveals an awful lot about that person reveals that basic selfishness reveals youth and colonus. There, they don’t have enough life experience to realize how that’s going to be received by the other person. You could pick up a lot from, you know, digital messaging and stuff, and you just have to sit there and interpret it and read between the lines. I think I’m very good at getting the subtext of posts. But you asked me for something more actionable. The thing you have to realize is that when you’re asking people for something, they are naturally going to be resistant to you. People are busy. They have their own concerns, their own problems. Sure. And when you come to them, particularly if they don’t know you, they’re going to resist you. Why should I spend the time there defending Right. So your first move always has to be to lower their defenses, to get them to relax in your presence, to get them to feel comfortable with you. So for instance, this young man, if he was tweeting you, or perhaps you got your email, he could have come in with a much more interesting approach, complimenting you about your work and saying you know how much you’ve helped him in your life, and saying, I appreciate it, and left it at that, and then hope that you respond, and then build a correspondence, at some point introduced the idea that maybe he could help you in some small way. But your first step must always be to lower people’s resistance. And the way to do that is to what I say confirm their self opinion, make feel good about themselves, make them feel that they’re respected, that you like them, that there’s some kind of rapport between you because people will respond to that and their natural defensiveness to strangers and outsiders. will not disappear, but it will lower enough that you might have room to start entering their mind. It’s kind of like a military operation. You’re trying to break through their defensiveness. You will hit them straight on like that guy did with his tweet, they’re going to be guarded wall right? That’s a strong part of their army and they’re going to kill you. You come from the side, right? It’s among the flank, be a little less direct, right? lower their resistance you melted a little bit, you might have room to infiltrate them and and gain some traction. You are a master strategist.
Jason Hartman 23:34
It’s great. Let me share with the listeners Robert, some of the laws from the table of contents, master your emotional self. So this is the law of irrationality, the law of narcissism, the love role playing the law of compulsive behavior, the law of covetousness the law of shortsightedness, the law of defensiveness, the law of self sabotage the law of repression The law of envy the law of grandiosity. I mean, there’s so many you know, the law of gender rigidity. There’s a lot here.
Robert Greene 24:07
Yeah, 18 of them,
Jason Hartman 24:08
tell us more. I won’t read them all. But what do we do with all of these things? I mean, it’s it’s a, it’s amazing human beings are incredibly complex, aren’t they?
Robert Greene 24:17
They’re much more complex than you think they are. So the people you’re dealing with, are more complex and are more interesting than you imagined. And we tend when we deal with people, to simplify them, to project onto them our own wishes and desires. And we’re very quick to judge them. Are they good or bad, they like us are not like us. I want you to stop that in this this book. I want you to judge people less. And your first effort is to understand them to understand what makes them tick. So the first law for instance, I’m basically telling you that we are emotional creatures, we’re not rational. We’re largely governed by our emotions. And so this will help you understand people People understand how you can perhaps influence them or what’s guiding their behavior. They’ll try to present themselves as being guided by something ideal or some rational purpose. But really, there’s some deep emotional need that’s compelling them. I want you to be aware that people express a lot through nonverbal behavior. They present a facade, a mask, of friendliness, of being cooperative, of being a good person, but behind that mask, all sorts of other things are going on. And incredible amounts of information are being emitted through their smiles, through their facial expressions through their look in their eyes, or body language when you approach them from an angle when they first see you. Are they excited? Or are they rigid to their point away from you, to their eyes light up? Are they always late when they have an appointment? These are signs that show something about their character. So I want you I want to train you and Get behind the appearances that people present and be able to see their character, and to see something deep inside of them about what’s motivating them. So some people in life are toxic, they’re difficult, they’re dangerous. You don’t want to hire them. You don’t want to deal with them. And you don’t
Jason Hartman 26:17
want to marry them, that’s for sure. I
Robert Greene 26:19
don’t want to marry them. But people like that don’t go around announcing themselves, they don’t have a big neon sign, right? As I’m talking, they don’t have horns, or anything like that. So I wanted to give you the signs for what a toxic person is like before it gets too late. So for instance, when the chapter on envy, envy is an emotion that nobody ever admits to, and it’s very subtle and hard to pick up. I want to show you the signs that people reveal through their behavior and through their body language and through their actions about the you might be dealing with the toxic envious type. So that gives you kind of an idea of this approach in this book.
Jason Hartman 26:58
Yeah, absolutely. People are toxic in a lot of ways besides envy, though, right? That’s just one of many, I’m guessing.
Robert Greene 27:05
Yes, they’re toxic come this toxic narcissists. And, you know, once again, these people, oftentimes narcissists are extremely charming people, they know how to be very, very dramatic and overt. And they can actually give you the impression that they’re interested in you. And they like to suck people into their worlds. They can even have some charisma. But once you get more and more involved with them, you realize that everything is about them. They actually are very, they’re like using you as a pawn. Right? It could be terrible to have them as a business partner, or an intimate partner. And I want you to see the signs for you get involved with a deep narcissist, you know, they’re gonna go through all the other dark qualities. Yeah, right. There’s that there’s a lot of dark qualities. Are you talking about always non situational things like these are things that are embedded in someone’s character, or can they be situational to That’s a good question. I maintain that all of us are to some degree self absorbed. And we’re all in some to some degree Narcissus, we
Jason Hartman 28:08
probably wouldn’t have survived. If we weren’t that way, to some extent,
Robert Greene 28:11
right? You need a degree of actually a degree survival. Scott is very healthy for you, you need self esteem and self love. And in certain situations, we can be pushed into deeper narcissism. Like if we suffer a lot of failure and setbacks, we become more self absorbed. So situations can have a very big impact on us. But I want to say that these are tendencies embedded in our nature that all of us have, and certainly if we suffer adversity, grandiosity is a chapter that I have in there. And it basically if we have success in life, suddenly our mind our self becomes inflated, and we get this idea that we’re godlike. That’s a situational thing. Whereas normally, maybe we have a little Bit of doubt, something that we do, it’s a quarter we get success. Suddenly, we’ll start losing touch with reality. And we imagine we have the Midas touch. And so success can be very dangerous.
Jason Hartman 29:14
You know, I one of my favorite quotes Robert, that I repeat often, and trying to remember in my own life is, is from Napoleon who you’ve studied. Obviously, the most dangerous moment comes with victory, right?
Robert Greene 29:26
Jason Hartman 29:28
That’s when we become complacent, we become cocky. And we get that grandiosity we get a little bit of that. And that can really really sabotage one’s path, can it?
Robert Greene 29:38
Yeah, in my books, each idea is illustrated with the story of history. So there’s like a historical icon that represents that. And in that particular chapter, I chronicle the career trajectory of Michael Eisner, the CEO of Disney, yeah,
Jason Hartman 29:54
good. It’s good. The contemporary one too. Yeah.
Robert Greene 29:57
Yeah. Right, who in the 70s was the most successful Full studio executive at Paramount, and then transferred to Disney and had this incredible run of success. And it went to his head. And he created Euro Disney. And he did all sorts of bad things in the 90s. And slowly, the early 2000s Disney and its stock was tanking. And he was eventually fired under very bitter circumstances. But he got the feeling through this run of success that he had, that he could do anything he could design his own theme park. He could be an architect to be a movie director, right?
Jason Hartman 30:34
He wasn’t Walt Disney. He was a CEO.
Robert Greene 30:37
He was he thought he was well, yeah, he was.
Jason Hartman 30:40
Yeah, no I sir stories a good one. You know, what always fascinates me, Robert, is you hear I mean, we’ve seen it so many times. Young success, the celebrity you know, and they’re the four years after they become famous. They’re in rehab and they’ve got drug problems and their life is falling apart. I mean, why You would think I mean, you know, you look at the the suicide of Robin Williams, you know, you would think and he’s not that example this different example obviously, but you would think these people have like everything going for them. Maybe it’s it really is a curse and not a blessing. Hmm
Robert Greene 31:16
Yes, it also you know, I think about somebody like Anthony Bourdain, for instance.
Jason Hartman 31:21
Now there’s another example.
Robert Greene 31:22
Kate’s but I think what happens in these cases is that kind of the adulation and the success there’s something kind of known as the phony phenomenon or people who are very successful deep down inside wonder whether they deserve that they’re maybe they’re a bit phony at the like, like a mixture
Jason Hartman 31:38
syndrome concept. The imposter? That’s what I
Robert Greene 31:41
meant. Sorry, right. The imposter syndrome complex. Maybe there’s a bit of an imposter. I even felt that some of that myself. Sure. And so there’s a kind of a falseness to what success can do. It makes you I say in the book, that normally Your feet are on the ground, you need to be grounded in reality. Your opinion of yourself, you can think of yourself as being a little better than you actually are. In fact, we all do. But if your opinion gets a little too far away from reality, danger sets in right now and you begin to feel unreal, you begin to feel that, you know, you lose a sense of who you are.
Jason Hartman 32:18
And I think a lot of very successful, particularly actors and celebrities, and actors, with actors and celebrities, they get discovered. And it’s like, so fast after that, in most cases, right? I mean, some of them certainly work for it. But you know, that’s the thing. That’s why it’s good to have some struggle in one’s life, isn’t it? It’s kind of a syndrome of the spoiled child. You know what? It’s all given to you. You just you don’t appreciate it. But you also think everything comes too easy. Like the world owes you a living doesn’t know. Yeah,
Robert Greene 32:48
yeah. Well, I’ve noticed that same problem with a lot of rappers who I’ve personally been involved with, where they have a hit record, when they’re 2021. And suddenly, they have to tons of money. And they really don’t know how to manage it all goes to their head. And they basically in the music industry can be extremely exploitative. They think they’re in control, but they’re not in control. And I did a book with 50 cent defective up. And he saw that very problem about what success can do to you very early on. And he’s someone who came from a very bad rough background, faced a lot of adversity, and he would not let that happen to him. He saw that happening on the streets with drug dealers, suddenly when they’re 15 years old, and they’re making six figures and going out buying fancy cars, and he was like a businessman even from the early days when he was dealing drugs on the street. The always forced himself to get those feet back down on the ground. Be a realist and don’t let anything go to your head.
Jason Hartman 33:54
But it’s a very, very dangerous phenomenon that you have to struggle against constantly. Definitely, definitely is Part of our big job in life is just overcoming our nature in a way, isn’t it? Key not overcoming but keeping our nature in check, right with that being fearless.
Robert Greene 34:10
Yeah, I mean, we see this with a lot of entrepreneurs. I felt that when I was on the board of directors for American Apparel, did you see that with someone like Elon Musk or other entrepreneurs, where they have a lot of success because they’re just very persistent and pushy, and they have the vision, and then they think that they anything that they can do is correct, right? It can branch out into any kind of business. If there’s some 14 Kids trapped in the cave in Thailand. Yeah, there was they can go save them, even though they have no skills and no knowledge of that. They believe that, you know, they can transfer their skills to anything in life. So you know, we see that a lot with entrepreneurs. Definitely,
Jason Hartman 34:50
definitely true. Very, very good. Take us through maybe another one of the laws if you would, I’m just I mean, 18 laws here. Gosh, there’s a lot. There’s a lot here, Robert as as with all your books, how many pages is this book? Just out of curiosity?
Robert Greene 35:06
Oh, you don’t want to ask that question. It’s my longest book so far. It’s some 550 pages. Wow. You know, when you’re writing a book called The laws of human nature, you kind of want it to be somewhat complete. Right, right. Absolutely. It’s not meant to be read from cover to cover, you’re going to see certain chapters that jump out at you that appeal to you. So for instance, you asked me about another chapter. There’s one about change your attitude to alter your circumstances, self sabotage. And basically the idea is, we don’t look at the world and see things as they are. We look at the world through a lens through our attitude, right. It’s how we judge events can depend on whether we have a positive attitude, a negative attitude, a hostile attitude, whether we think everybody in the world is against us. All right. We’re friendly attitude to people can See the same thing and see it extremely different. I’ll share a pinch on their attitude. So one person goes to Paris and finds it magical that people grade, the other person sees the same things and thinks it’s cold and ugly and the people are unfriendly out of it depends on your attitude. And it’s extremely important to understand, you can actually literally change your own life and your circumstances by working with your attitude. And we understand this in our own lives. When the somebody approaches us, who we sense is a bit defensive or hostile or negative. We get kind of defensive in return. We don’t really like them, but we get nervous, right? They sense that in us. And that feeds even makes them even more hostile,
Jason Hartman 36:44
vicious circle, right?
Robert Greene 36:46
Yeah. But if somebody comes up to us, and they look us in the eye, they’re friendly and they’re open, we suddenly have a much different reaction. So attitude you bring and carry through life, constantly effect People you deal with and will either attract them repulse them or leave them in different and you have the power to alter that you can completely alter your attitude. I maintained in the book. They’re introverts and extroverts. We are born that way. I haven’t been born an introvert, you’re never really going to change that. But there’s some things you can beat, you can make your attitude more open, you cannot be afraid of failure. You cannot be so fearful in life. You can judge people less, you can be more open and accepting of what happens to you. That kind of open attitude. Well, you’re not closed and negative and judging everything will have a very positive effect on yourself and on the people that you deal with. So that’s an extremely important chapter.
Jason Hartman 37:48
Yeah, very good point. You know, I remember one of my early mentors through his awesome tapes was Earl Nightingale and he used to say to ask the role of attitude in Someone’s success or failure is like asking what is the role of h2o in the Pacific Ocean? It’s not everything. It’s just almost everything.
Robert Greene 38:10
Jason Hartman 38:11
What inspired you to write this book? I mean, why some bit of a shift for you? Not completely, of course. But um, it’s kind of a different direction a
Robert Greene 38:20
little bit. Well, I get a lot of emails from people and also my consulting work. And I noticed that a lot of people have this problem. And I mentioned that earlier on, or the number one issue that they have or dilemma is not with technical issues is not with their knowledge, right. It’s dealing with people and political issues are managing them. Yeah. And it causes a lot of pain. You know, you don’t have to deal with your rebellious teenage son. We’ve got a boss who doesn’t listen to you who’s kind of cold and expects you to do things. You’re dealing with colleagues, who you don’t trust. You have a partner who is Bad partner and is ruining your business. And people were writing to me. And I sense their pain and their need for some help. And I wanted to be able to reach them on a very deep level, not just give them sort of superficial advice about, I wanted to give them a kind of what I call a code book that they can use to help them decipher the behavior of that teenage son of that boss of that colleague of that wife or husband, so that they can start instead of reacting to what people do or say, they can step back and understand the context of it doesn’t mean that you forgive and are loving to everyone. A toxic person is a toxic person, right? By understanding them and understanding what makes them tick and have some distance and not get dragged into their emotional drama. Right. So I wrote this book because I was genuinely wanting to help people deal with what I consider the greatest impediment and obstacle in life. There. inability to affect or influence the people around them, and the bad choices that they make with associates, and business partners, etc.
Jason Hartman 40:10
Robert, that is so true. I mean, everything you said just you just nailed it. Because Isn’t it odd that we have so many technicians in today’s world? There are so many people that understand all the how that you know what software tools to use, you know how to run systems and set up systems and that’s all great. But I look at things like this as sort of the core foundational philosophy, this is foundational stuff. Why do people just skip this nowadays? It seems like
Robert Greene 40:42
who would you consider the wealthiest man in the world, the most successful investor business person in the world? Well,
Jason Hartman 40:49
that’s going to be Warren Buffett. Right, exactly.
Robert Greene 40:52
Now read about Warren Buffett and read him closely as I have for this book. And this man, one of the most important things that he did The key to his success force, he did massive research on the companies that he wanted to buy and invest in. But along with that research about the financial and the spreadsheets, was in depth analysis of the character of the CEO that he was going to be involved with, or that he was going to put in position of power, understood that it’s a people business. And that on paper, a company may not be as brilliant as something else. But the people leading it, are strong, have a vision, are persistent, are smart, are good managers. The company has high morale, he based his judgment on whether to invest in them based on the morale of the employees based on the character of the CEO. He understood that this is the key component for success in life. Yeah, you know, and a lot of people are not good at that and you can you obviously can make wise decisions and go through life without being great with people. I mean, Someone like Steve Jobs, right? is brilliant, but he was not a good man. Definitely not great with people. But he got better as he got right in life and he understood his limitations. And he understood he had to hire the right people. Right. You know, I dealt with somebody in my last book Master, I interviewed her know, you know if you know who Paul Graham is? No, he founded Y Combinator. Oh,
Jason Hartman 42:23
yeah, of course. I’ve heard of him. Yeah, yeah. He’s
Robert Greene 42:27
extremely successful, a billionaire. And he realized that he’s not good with people. He never will be right. Perhaps he’s a little bit on this spectrum there. He realized that he had to marry the person who is very good with people depend on her to screen the good. So knowing your faults and your deficiencies is extremely important. Not all of us are gifted with great amounts of intuitiveness and empathy. But knowing that you’ve lacked that you can compensate for in some way perhaps you have A person who will compensate for that weakness Yeah. Do you have to realize this is by far the most important component in your success and your happiness in life?
Jason Hartman 43:10
No question about it. You know, you’re reminding me all throughout this interview that Zig Ziglar quote, you can have everything in life you want if you just help enough other people get what they want. It’s all about people dealing with people and like you said, you know, there are toxic people and you got to know who to keep and who to throw back. You know, like the fishing metaphor. It’s very, very good stuff. I I can’t wait to dive into this book a little more laws of human nature. Robert Greene. Thanks again for being on the show. give out your website, if you would, of course the books available in all the usual places with excellent reviews I might add.
Robert Greene 43:48
Oh, thank you. Well, lipset I had this from my first three books it’s pretty much been the same it’s power, seduction and war. Calm the and is spelled out So power seduction and war.com. And there you’ll find links to my book on mastery and book that I did with 57 color 50th law, and to this most recent book, and all the information you could ever want or not want.
Jason Hartman 44:16
Excellent, good stuff. Robert Green. Thanks again for joining us.
Robert Greene 44:19
Thank you so much for having me, Jason. My pleasure.
Jason Hartman 44:24
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